Field notesBlogStories from men in the fight, the theology behind freedom, and practical helps.July 30, 2026Shame Says Hide. Conviction Says Come Home.Shame and conviction can feel identical at 11pm, but they pull you in opposite directions. Learning to tell them apart might be the most useful skill in this whole fight.July 27, 2026The Empty Hour: Why Idle Time Is More Dangerous Than You ThinkYou don't fall in the middle of a busy Tuesday. You fall in the fifteen empty minutes nobody planned for. Here's how to see the empty hour coming and fill it on purpose.July 23, 2026You Don't Need an Accountability Partner. You Need a Men's Community.One guy checking your texts isn't enough to hold a man's whole life. Here's why a real men's community succeeds where a single accountability partner quietly fails.July 19, 2026Talking to Your Kids About PornographyYour son will see it before you think he's ready to talk about it. Here's how to start the conversation early, honestly, and without the shame that kept you quiet for years.July 12, 2026So You're Leading a Team NowLeading a team doesn't mean you finished the fight — it means you're far enough down the road to reach back. Lead like a brother who still needs grace, because you do.July 12, 2026Rebuilding Trust With Your Wife, One Day at a TimeTrust doesn't come back because of one good apology or one good month. It comes back because of a long, unremarkable string of ordinary days where you were exactly who you said you'd be.July 12, 2026Your Phone Is Not NeutralYour phone wasn't built to protect you — it was built to hold your attention at any cost. David set a rule for his house in advance. Set one for yours.July 12, 2026Guarding Your Eyes This SummerJob made his covenant with his eyes before the temptation showed up, not during it. Summer doesn't get a pass from the fight; it gets a plan.May 2, 2026Your Testimony Is a Weapon — Use ItYou did not walk through this dark valley for yourself. The story God is writing in you is for the brother He is going to put in front of you next year. Be ready to tell it.April 26, 2026Restoring What You DamagedThere is forgiveness, and then there is restitution. Walking in freedom often means going back and making things right with the people you wounded along the way.April 20, 2026Forgiving Those Who Wounded YouYou will not walk in full freedom while still chained to the people who wounded the boy you used to be. Forgiveness does not excuse them. It releases you.April 14, 2026Forgiving Yourself — After the Cross, You Have ToYou can sit at the foot of the cross every Sunday and still walk around carrying every sin Christ already paid for. He died to free you of that too.April 8, 2026Sobriety Is Not FreedomA man can be 90 days clean and 90 days enslaved. The two words are not synonyms. The B.O.L.D. work is for freedom, not for streaks.April 2, 2026When the Old Patterns Try to ReturnYou will get six months in, feel free for the first time in years, and one Tuesday the old patterns will appear at the door like nothing has changed. Here is what to do.March 27, 2026Worship Is WarfareWhen Jehoshaphat sent the worshipers in front of the army, the enemy turned on itself. Worship is not the soundtrack of the spiritual life. It is a weapon.March 21, 2026Speaking Life Over YourselfYou have been preaching shame to yourself for years. Today we change the sermon. Speech shapes the man.March 15, 2026Take Every Thought Captive — PracticallyMost men hear "take every thought captive" and have no idea what to do with it on a Tuesday afternoon. Here is the practical version.March 9, 2026The Renewed Mind Is the Whole GameRomans 12:2 is not a poetic suggestion. It is the single most operationally important verse for the man fighting pornography. Here is how it actually works.March 3, 2026Who You Are in Christ — Stop Living Below ItYou have been confessing yourself as the addict for so long that you have forgotten the name your Father gave you. Today we re-learn it.February 25, 2026The Father WoundAlmost every man carrying sexual brokenness is also carrying a father story. The healing of one is wrapped up in the healing of the other.February 19, 2026Childhood Wounds and the Roots of LustMost pornography addictions in grown men did not start with the pornography. They started with a wound a boy did not know how to carry.February 13, 2026A Word for the Wives — From AmberBryan asked me to write to the women whose husbands are walking this road. I want to say a few honest things to you, sister, that you may not have heard yet.February 7, 2026Strongholds — What They Are and How They FallA stronghold is a lie that has built a fortress in your mind. It does not fall to discipline. It falls to truth, declared, in community, over time.February 1, 2026Spiritual Warfare Is Real. Fight Like It.The fight in your bedroom at 11pm is not just neurological and not just behavioral. It is spiritual. The sooner you take that seriously, the sooner the ground starts to shift.January 26, 2026Triggers, Patterns, and HALTYou did not fall at random last Tuesday. There was a pattern. Find it. Name it. Disrupt it.January 20, 2026The Dopamine Trap and the Way OutThe reason you cannot stop scrolling is the same reason you cannot stop the porn. Both feed the same hungry beast — and the beast cannot be filled.January 14, 2026How Pornography Rewires the BrainYou are not weak. You are wired. The neuroscience is finally catching up to what scripture has known about sexual sin for thousands of years.January 8, 2026When You Fall — And You WillThe men who finish this race are not the men who never fall. They are the men who never stay down.January 2, 2026The Year Will Not Save You. Christ Will.A new calendar does not change your wiring. The fresh start you are looking for is not on January 1. It is in a Person.December 27, 2025Looking Back, Walking ForwardThe end of the year is not the time for resolutions. It is the time to look honestly at what God did this year and to ask Him what He is doing next.December 21, 2025A Brother in the Cold of DecemberChristmas week is one of the hardest weeks of the year for men in this fight. The reasons are real, the danger is real, and so is the way through.December 15, 2025The Lie of I Can Handle This AloneNo man has ever defeated lust by himself. Not one. The man who tries is the man who fails — even if he stays sober for a season, the deeper bondage holds.December 9, 2025Name It By Name. Vague Sin Cannot Be Killed.You cannot crucify what you will not name. Generic confession produces generic freedom — which is no freedom at all.December 3, 2025Confession That Heals — and Confession That Does NotYou can spend six months in a B.O.L.D. group practicing the wrong kind of confession and arrive unchanged. Real confession has a shape. Here it is.November 27, 2025Gratitude Is a Weapon. Use It This Week.You will not lust your way out of lust. But brothers across the country have found that the discipline of thanksgiving — real, specific, daily thanksgiving — is one of the sharpest weapons against it.November 21, 2025Sin Grows in the Dark. Bring It Out.The thief loves the dark. He cannot work in the light. Every hidden sin is a sin that has not yet started to die.November 15, 2025The Two Worlds You Are Living InMost men trapped in pornography are not living a single life. They are living two — the public man and the secret man. Until you collapse the two, neither will be alive.November 9, 2025The First Step Is Always the SameYou are not a project to God. You are His son. The first step out of pornography is the same step every brother before you took: confession.
