Start B.O.L.D. at Your Church

The fight in your pews

Pornography is not a fringe problem in the church. It is in your men's ministry, your worship team and your leadership — and in the marriages of the couples you counsel. Most of those men will sit through a sermon on purity, nod, and go home to the same secret. Many of their wives already know something is wrong.

The cost is not abstract. It shows up as marriages that quietly hollow out, men who disqualify themselves from leading, sons who inherit the same struggle, and a church culture where no one says the word out loud. Silence is the soil this grows in.

"Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed." — James 5:16

What actually helps

A men's breakfast and an annual purity series are not enough. What changes men is a small, named, recurring group where they are fully known and still loved — and where somebody notices the day they go quiet.

That is what B.O.L.D. (Brothers Overcoming Lustful Desires) builds. B.O.L.D. is a Christian men's ministry and 501(c)(3) that helps churches start packs: four to six men with a leader, under your church, meeting weekly with a code of silence and a curriculum that doesn't flinch.

• Daily check-ins. Each man taps in every day — clear, tempted, or a setback — and his pack sees it.
• Brothers who reach out. When a man struggles, his pack knows and calls him, before a slip becomes a spiral.
• A real curriculum. A workbook that goes after the roots of sexual sin, plus scripture, prayer and devotionals.
• A leader who isn't alone. The Bold Leader Handbook, a full leadership manual, equips your point person for setbacks, crises, marriages in trouble, child safety and confidentiality. See /books.
• Help for the wives. B.O.L.D. has a women's ministry and resources written for wives, so the women in your church are not left to carry this alone.
• The Watchman app holds it together, and it is free for every man.

How B.O.L.D. walks with your church

You do not have to figure this out by yourself. B.O.L.D. helps you start a group on your own campus:

1. A conversation. A call with Bryan Stewart, B.O.L.D.'s founder, about your church, your men, and whether B.O.L.D. fits.
2. Leader training. Your point person is trained to lead through the first 90 days.
3. Your first meeting. A B.O.L.D. team member is there — in person when you're within reach of Rockwall or Hockley, Texas, and on Zoom when you're not.
4. Follow-up. Regular check-ins for your first months, and a phone call away when a group hits a wall.

What B.O.L.D. asks of a church: a senior leader who knows the group exists, a point person committed for at least a year, and a firm commitment to confidentiality. Your church stays in charge of its own ministry.

Start small

Launch one pack of four to six men, not a room of thirty. The first month decides whether a group survives, and it goes better small. When a pack reaches six, it splits, and the second pack goes to a man you trained in the first. For the full picture, read how to start a men's accountability ministry.

What leaders do and don't see

Pastors always ask this. Your church never sees a man's browsing, and neither does his leader. If he chooses device protection, his pack and his wife are told only that something was blocked and when. Details are on what church leaders see.

Protection for the men who want it

Every man in the pack uses the free Watchman app. Men who want a guard on their devices can add Watchman+ — on-device blocking with alerts to their pack — and a church can choose to sponsor it for its men. Plans and details are on accountability software for churches.

Take the first step

Tell us about your church at /contact, or read more on /for-pastors. The men in your church don't need another sermon. They need brothers.

"How can a man go and make disciples if he is chained up to sexual immorality? Get him free."