For pastors & church leaders

You already know.

Roughly 70% of the men sitting in your pews this Sunday are struggling with pornography, and a meaningful number of them are sliding toward — or already inside — an affair. The studies say it. Your counseling office knows it. Your worship pastor knows it. The wives know it. Most of those men will never raise their hand in a sermon series.

The men's breakfast is not enough. The annual purity sermon is not enough. They need a green zone — a small, named, recurring group with a code of silence and a curriculum that doesn't flinch.

That is what we plant.

If you are a pastor, deacon, elder, or men's ministry leader at a Bible-believing church, we will help you stand up a B.O.L.D. group on your own campus at no cost to you.

Specifically:

1. A 60-minute discovery call with Bryan. He'll listen, ask hard questions, and tell you straight whether B.O.L.D. is the right fit for what your church needs.
2. The full curriculum framework — the "what to expect" essay (the one on our How to Join (/how-to-join) page), the daily check-in flow, the code of silence, the leader rotation pattern. All transferable.
3. Leader training for your point person — usually 4–6 hours over Zoom or one Saturday in Rockwall. We'll talk you through the first 90 days.
4. A B.O.L.D. team member at your first meeting — if you're within driving distance of Rockwall or Hockley, one of us will be in the room with you the first night. If you're not, we'll be on Zoom.
5. Six months of follow-up — monthly check-ins for the first six months. If your group hits a wall, we are a phone call away.

What we ask from you

• A senior leader in the building knows the group exists. B.O.L.D. is not a clandestine operation. The senior pastor doesn't have to attend, but he has to know.
• A point person who is committed for at least one year. Group leadership is the load-bearing wall — if you don't have someone for that role, this won't work, and we'd rather know now.
• Confidentiality. The code of silence is not optional. We will walk through it with your team.
• No financial or doctrinal entanglement. Your church remains in charge of its own ministry. We are a coach, not a denomination.

Why churches partner with us instead of building their own

It's not because you can't build your own. You can. Many of the strongest groups in our network are run by pastors who could have done this without us. They came to us because:

1. The framework is already battle-tested. Bryan and the team have made paved the way and developed the model so your group doesn't have to. The 1-to-5-year timeline. The hand-emoji vs. praying-hands distinction. The "1 group/month minimum or you're out of accountability text." Each of those is a scar from real groups.
2. It's the difference between starting from a blank page and starting from a known-good design. Saves you 12–24 months of trial and error.
3. Your guys hear it from another man, not from staff. Sometimes the hardest thing for the senior pastor to do is be the first man in the church to confess porn. Bringing in an outside man removes that ceiling.

How to start

Text or email Bryan with "Pastor" in the subject line:

• bryan@boldmen.org (mailto:bryan@boldmen.org)
• (214) 405-7328

Tell us your church, your city, the size of your men's ministry, and one sentence about what is making you reach out today.

"Therefore, go and make disciples of all nations…" — Matthew 28:19

How can a man go and make disciples if he is chained up to sexual immorality? Get him free. Then we both have a chance.

Talk to Bryan → (/contact)