Who it is for: Christian men walking out of pornography and sexual sin, in a small accountability group with a leader.
Format: 14 weeks. Each week: a teaching, seven daily devotionals, a memory verse, group discussion questions, a weekly check-in, and space for a leader’s notes.
Anchor scripture: James 5:16
How to get it: Paperback. Ask at contact or through your pack leader.

The first fourteen weeks are about one thing: telling the truth. Not the polished version — the real one, the kind James 5:16 talks about when it says confession is what heals you. Volume I walks a man through naming the addiction honestly, understanding why willpower alone hasn't worked, and building the two habits everything else depends on: the daily check-in and a group that actually knows what's going on.

Each week includes a teaching, seven daily devotionals, a memory verse, group discussion questions, a weekly check-in, and space for a leader's notes. This volume is the on-ramp — start here.

About the series

The wicked flee though no one pursues, but the righteous are bold as lions. Proverbs 28:1 is the anchor for this workbook, and it's a fitting one. Freedom from pornography and sexual sin isn't won by white-knuckling it alone in a locked room. It's won in the open, in front of other men who already know your worst days and are still showing up.

The B.O.L.D. Workbook is a 52-week guide built for that kind of recovery — the kind that happens in a small group, out loud, over the course of a year. Each week pairs a short teaching with seven days of devotionals, a memory verse, group discussion questions, and a place to write down what actually happened. No theory without practice. No verse without a next step.

This isn't a solo Bible study repackaged for accountability. It's built around a specific rhythm: check in daily — clear or a setback, no in-between — and let your team respond in real time instead of finding out weeks later. The teaching moves you from the first honest confession through renewing your mind, rebuilding your habits, and eventually discipling the next man who's where you used to be. Freedom from this is realistically a one-to-five-year process. This workbook is built for the whole stretch, not just the first thirty days of motivation.

Published across three volumes so no single book is unmanageable to carry or finish:

Volume I — Honesty & the War Underneath (Weeks 1–14): naming the addiction for what it is and building the daily habits — confession, check-ins, scripture — that make change possible.
Volume II — The New Mind & Rooted Living (Weeks 15–33): the long middle stretch, where the real work happens — renewing how you think, rebuilding what you trust, and staying rooted when the initial motivation runs out.
Volume III — Redeemed & Sending (Weeks 34–52): finishing the year, taking ownership of a life that's actually changed, and turning around to help the next man start.

Use it alone with a journal, but it's built for a table with four or five other men around it and a leader who's already been through it.

How Pornography Rewires the Brain (Romans 7:18–19)
The Dopamine Trap (Proverbs 27:20)
Triggers, Patterns, and HALT (1 Peter 5:8)
Spiritual Warfare Is Real (Ephesians 6:10–12)
Strongholds (What They Are and How They Fall — 2 Corinthians 10:3–5)
Childhood Wounds and the Roots of Lust (Psalm 51:5–6)
The Father Wound (Malachi 4:6)

Sample: Week 1: The First Step

“Whoever conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy.” — Proverbs 28:13 (ESV)

The teaching

If you're reading this on a Monday morning of Week One, take a breath. You did the hard part. You sat down. You opened the book. The man who has been hiding for years just made the first move out of the cave.

I want to talk with you this week about why that first move, confession, isn't the end of the story. It's the beginning of one.

The lie we believe about confession

Most men I've walked with believed, deep down, that confession is what happens after you get caught. You confess to your wife when she finds the browser history. You confess to your pastor when somebody at church saw something. You confess to God in a panic at three in the morning, hoping He won't strike you down before sunrise. Confession, in this version, is damage control. It's the punishment phase. It's what you do after the disaster.

That's not what confession is in the kingdom of God.

“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” — 1 John 1:9

Watch what John does in that verse. He doesn't say, "when you get caught, confess." He says, "if you confess." Confession in scripture is initiated by the sinner, not extracted by the circumstance. It's something you walk toward, not something that happens to you. And the result, he is faithful and just to forgive, isn't a probation. It's a cleansing.

Why God designed it this way

There's something the enemy doesn't want you to understand about confession. He wants you to think it's the price you pay for messing up, so he makes it feel humiliating, terrifying, dangerous. He whispers that you'll be exposed, rejected, that you'll lose everything. And so for years, sometimes decades, you keep your mouth shut.

But here is what scripture actually says about what happens when a man confesses:

“Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed.” — James 5:16

You may be healed. Healing isn't the byproduct of confession. It's the point of it. God didn't invent confession to humiliate you. He invented it as the doorway to your healing. The man who keeps his sin in the dark stays sick. The man who brings it into the light gets well.

Stop here. Read that paragraph three more times. The enemy has lied to you about confession your whole life. Confession isn't punishment. It's medicine. God isn't waiting to crush you when you finally tell the truth. He's waiting to heal you.

The two confessions

There are two confessions you'll need to learn to make over these next 52 weeks. Both are in the Bible. You cannot grow without both.

The first is vertical, between you and God. "Father, I have sinned. I have looked at what You said not to look at. I have wanted what You said not to want. I have hidden what You said to bring into the light. I confess it. I do not minimize it. I do not justify it. I receive Your forgiveness in the name of Jesus." That confession is necessary, and it's sufficient for forgiveness. The blood of Jesus covers it the moment you say it.

The second confession is horizontal, to another man. "Brother, this is what I did this week. This is what is true about me. I am bringing it into the light because the dark was killing me." That confession isn't necessary for forgiveness; God forgave you the moment you confessed to Him. It serves a different purpose entirely.

James 5:16 calls it healing. The wound goes deeper than guilt. Years of hiding have torn something in you. The lying, the double life, the shame, the management of secrets have made you sick in places that simple forgiveness doesn't reach. Community reaches them. The man who has heard your confession and not turned away from you is a witness to the gospel that nothing else in your life will replicate.

What this week is for

This week is your first step out of the cave. You won't confess everything this week. You don't have to. You won't be asked to disclose every sin in detail in front of your team. That's not what this is.

But this week, before your group meeting, you will write down on paper, just for you and God, what is true about your life. Not the version that sounds reasonable. The actual truth: what you actually did this week, what you actually thought, where you actually went, what's actually in your heart. Just on paper. Just to start.

Then you'll bring that paper to the group meeting, and you won't read from it. But you'll know it exists. You'll know that for the first time in maybe a decade, somebody else, you, in the presence of God, knows the truth.

That's the first step. Take it.

“You will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” — John 8:32

Daily devotionals

Seven readings for the seven days ahead. Take ten minutes. Read the verse, the thought, and let the Spirit speak.

DAY 1 — Why You Are Here

“Search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there be any grievous way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting!” — Psalm 139:23–24

David, who wrote this prayer, had committed adultery, ordered a murder, and lived for a year pretending none of it happened. This is the prayer he learned to pray afterward.

Notice what he doesn't pray: "God, here's what's wrong with me, please fix it." He prays the opposite. "God, search me. You know what's wrong with me. Show me what I can't see." That's the posture of a man who is finally ready to be free.

Today's Prompt: Pray Psalm 139:23–24 out loud. Then sit in silence for two minutes. What did the Holy Spirit bring to mind?

DAY 2 — The God Who Pursues

“But the LORD God called to the man, “Where are you?”” — Genesis 3:9

The first words God spoke to fallen humanity were a question to a hiding man. It's not "How could you?" or "Get out of my garden." It's "Where are you?"

God already knew where Adam was. The question wasn't for God's information. It was for Adam's. He was being called by name out of the bushes.

You've been in the bushes a long time. The Father is calling, and he isn't surprised by you. He isn't done with you. He's asking you, by name, where you are.

Today's Prompt: Where am I, really? Answer the Father's question, in writing.

DAY 3 — The Mercy on the Other Side

“Whoever conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy.” — Proverbs 28:13

Read the verse twice. The man who hides does not prosper. The man who confesses obtains mercy. There is no third option in the verse, no "the man who manages" or "the man who tries hard." Just hiding, which is death, or confession, which is mercy.

You aren't choosing between two reasonable options. You're choosing between life and death today. Confession is the only road to mercy.

Today's Prompt: Where in my life am I trying to find a third option, not confessing, but not really continuing either? Name it.

DAY 4 — The Spirit Who Convicts

“When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all the truth.” — John 16:13

Conviction isn't condemnation. Condemnation says, "You're worthless. You're too far gone." Conviction says, "This specific thing must change."

The Holy Spirit is the conviction, the still small voice that just brought something specific to your mind when you started reading this paragraph. That's him. Lean in.

Today's Prompt: What specific thing did the Spirit bring to mind? Write it down. This is the place to start.

DAY 5 — No Condemnation

“There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” — Romans 8:1

Memorize this verse before any other, not because it's your favorite but because the enemy will quote scripture at you this week, and most of what he quotes will be lies.

There is therefore now, right now, today, this morning, in your current condition, no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. None. Not pending. Not probationary. None.

The shame voice in your head isn't God. God's voice convicts; it doesn't condemn. If you're hearing condemnation, you're listening to the wrong voice.

Today's Prompt: Write Romans 8:1 in your own words, as if you were saying it to yourself in the third person. Read it aloud.

DAY 6 — The First Confession

“I acknowledged my sin to you, and I did not cover my iniquity; I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the LORD,” and you forgave the iniquity of my sin.” — Psalm 32:5

David is describing the moment hiding stopped. The grammar is striking: "I said, I will confess." He hadn't even confessed yet. He had only decided to. And in that decision, God was already forgiving.

You may not be ready today to tell your team everything. You may not be ready to tell your wife. But you can decide today. You can say to the Father: I will confess. And he will meet you the moment you decide.

Today's Prompt: Out loud, say to the Father: "Father, I will confess. I am done hiding. Lead me out." What rose in you when you said it?

DAY 7 — A Promise For This Week

“He who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.” — Philippians 1:6

A good work has begun in you. That's what this workbook is. That's what your hand on this page is. That's what the Holy Spirit drawing you toward your team is. He started it. He will finish it.

You aren't the one who has to figure out how this turns out. He started it. He will finish it. Your job today is to keep showing up.

Today's Prompt: What does it look like for me, today, to simply keep showing up? Be specific.

This week’s reflection

Take real time with these. Use the lines or your B.O.L.D. journal. Bring your written reflections to the group meeting.

Write your story of how you got here. Not the polished version, the actual one. When did pornography first enter your life? Who showed you? What was happening at home? Take real time. Two pages, minimum.
What is the lie you've been believing about confession? (For example: "If I tell, I'll be rejected." "If I tell, my wife will leave." "If I tell, God will be done with me.") Name the specific lie. Then write the truth from scripture next to it.
What is one specific thing the Holy Spirit has been pressing on you to confess, vertically, between you and God, that you've been resisting? Write it down. Then write the prayer of confession to the Father below it. Date it.
Who currently in your life knows the actual truth about you? (Not a version of it. The truth.) If the answer is no one, that's precisely why you're starting this workbook. Write what it would mean for that to change.

Memorize this week

“Whoever conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy.” — Proverbs 28:13 (ESV)

Write the verse on a card. Say it out loud, three times each morning, three times each evening. By Sunday it should be in you.

Try writing it from memory three times below as the week progresses:

Tuesday:

Thursday:

Saturday:

Group discussion questions

Bring this page to your team meeting. Your leader will work through these together. Be honest. The group is only as deep as the bravest man in the room.

Open with each man, in one sentence: why are you actually here? Not the polite reason — the real one.
What did this week’s teaching surface for you about confession that you had not seen before?
Read Proverbs 28:13 aloud as a group. What are the two paths in the verse, and which one have you been on?
In the daily devotional on Day 4, the Spirit may have brought something specific to your mind. Without going into detail, what was the category? (Anger you have been hiding? Lust patterns? A relationship you have been deceiving someone in?) Naming the category, not the detail, is enough this week.
What is the single biggest fear you have about being honest in this group?
What does it look like, this week, for each of us to take one concrete step out of secrecy? Be specific. (Not “I’ll try harder.” Specific.)
Pray over each other before you leave. Hands on shoulders. Specific prayer for each man’s named fear.

WEEKLY CHECK-IN — WEEK 01

Fill this out before the meeting. The leader will collect responses or ask men to share aloud.

Days clear this week (out of 7): ____________

If there were setbacks, briefly: when, what triggered, what was happening in your life that day:

What spoke to you most from this week’s teaching?

What did the Holy Spirit press on in your daily devotionals?

Specific prayer request for the week ahead:

One specific way I am asking my brothers to encourage / hold me accountable this coming week:

Leader’s notes

— For team leaders only. Participants: skip ahead to next week. —

Also in this series

Bold Men Workbook, Volume II — The New Mind & Rooted Living (Weeks 15–33)
Bold Men Workbook, Volume III — Redeemed & Sending (Weeks 34–52)

Bold Men Workbook, Volume I