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The Same Man in Every Room

Ninety days of Scripture for the man who wants his Sunday self and his Tuesday self to match

Who it is for
Any Christian man; not addiction-specific. Works alone or as a 13-week small-group study.
Format
90 daily entries across 13 weekly themes. Each day: a passage, a short reading, a specific charge, and a prayer; each week ends with discussion questions, a memory verse, and a leader’s tip.
Anchor scripture
Proverbs 28:1
How to get it
Paperback. Ask at contact or through your pack leader.

How you drive when someone cuts you off. What you say about a coworker who isn't in the room. Whether the man who just finished praying is the same man who loses his temper ten minutes later.

Most men don't struggle to believe the right things. They struggle to be the same person in every room they walk into. The distance between the man you are on Sunday and the man you are in traffic on Tuesday is where character actually lives, and no amount of new information closes it.

THE SAME MAN IN EVERY ROOM is ninety days of Scripture built to close that distance. It works on formation rather than information, the slow kind of change that shows up in how you treat your wife when nobody is grading you for it. Each day is a single page: a passage, a short reading, a specific charge, a prayer, and room to write. Ten minutes before the house wakes up.

Thirteen weeks move a man from identity to legacy.

The first seven build the foundation. Who a man of God actually is. Walking with God in private. Integrity when no one is watching. Courage in place of fear. The ordinary discipline behind an extraordinary life. Brotherhood that sharpens. Standing firm under attack.

The last six turn a man outward. Loving a wife the way Christ loved the church. Fathering the next generation. Servant leadership at home, at work, and at church. Excellence as worship. Sacrifice. And the legacy a man leaves in other men.

Every week closes with discussion questions written for a group, a verse worth memorizing, and a note for whoever is leading. Read it alone with coffee, or work through it with the men who sharpen you as much as you sharpen them.

Published by Bold Men, a Christian men's discipleship ministry built on one habit: daily accountability inside real brotherhood.

Contents

Week 1: Foundations: Who Is a Man of God?

  1. Act Like Men (1 Corinthians 16:13-14)
  2. Made in His Image (Genesis 1:27)
  3. Not What the World Told You (Romans 12:2)
  4. A Son Before a Soldier (Romans 8:14-16)
  5. The Model Man (Philippians 2:5-8)
  6. Called, Not Self-Made (Ephesians 2:10)
  7. The Man You're Becoming (2 Corinthians 3:18)

Week 2: The Inner Life: Walking With God

  1. Before the Sun Comes Up (Mark 1:35)
  2. The Word in Your Hands (Joshua 1:8)
  3. Prayer Isn't a Performance (Matthew 6:5-6)
  4. Silence and Solitude (1 Kings 19:11-13)
  5. Fasting as a Weapon (Matthew 4:1-4)
  6. A Heart of Worship, Not Just Habit (John 4:23-24)
  7. The Long Obedience (Galatians 6:9)

Week 3: Integrity: The Man You Are When No One's Watching

  1. A Covenant with Your Eyes (Job 31:1)
  2. The Same Man in Every Room (Luke 12:2-3)
  3. Undivided (James 1:8)
  4. Truth-Telling as Strength (Ephesians 4:25)
  5. Integrity in Small Things (Luke 16:10)
  6. When No One Is Grading You (Proverbs 15:3)
  7. The Man Your Family Actually Sees (Proverbs 20:7)

Week 4: Courage: Fighting Fear with Faith

  1. Be Strong and Courageous (Joshua 1:9)
  2. Fear Is a Liar (2 Timothy 1:7)
  3. The Courage to Be Known (James 5:16)
  4. Standing Alone When You Have To (Daniel 3:16-18)
  5. Courage to Say No (Genesis 39:6-12)
  6. Courage to Say Yes (Isaiah 6:8)
  7. Facing Your Giant (1 Samuel 17)

Week 5: Discipline: The Ordinary Habits of an Extraordinary Man

  1. Train, Don't Just Try (1 Timothy 4:7-8)
  2. The Power of a Plan (Proverbs 21:5)
  3. Guard Your Morning (Psalm 5:3)
  4. Guard Your Screen (Psalm 101:3)
  5. Guard Your Money (Luke 16:11)
  6. Guard Your Body (1 Corinthians 6:19-20)
  7. Discipline Is Love (Hebrews 12:11)

Week 6: Brotherhood: Iron Sharpens Iron

  1. Iron Sharpens Iron (Proverbs 27:17)
  2. Two Are Better Than One (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12)
  3. Bear One Another's Burdens (Galatians 6:2)
  4. The Danger of Isolation (Proverbs 18:1)
  5. Confession Among Friends (James 5:16)
  6. Showing Up for Another Man (Job 2:11-13)
  7. Sharpening, Not Competing (1 Thessalonians 5:11)

Week 7: Spiritual Warfare: Standing Firm

  1. Put On the Full Armor (Ephesians 6:10-13)
  2. Know Your Enemy (1 Peter 5:8)
  3. The Belt of Truth (Ephesians 6:14)
  4. The Shield of Faith (Ephesians 6:16)
  5. The Sword of the Spirit (Ephesians 6:17 / Hebrews 4:12)
  6. Resist and He Will Flee (James 4:7)
  7. Praying in the Spirit (Ephesians 6:18)

Week 8: Husband: Loving Like Christ Loved the Church

  1. Love Her Like Christ Loved the Church (Ephesians 5:25)
  2. Understanding, Not Just Providing (1 Peter 3:7)
  3. Leading Without Lording (Ephesians 5:21)
  4. The Safest Place She Knows (1 Corinthians 13:4-7)
  5. Repair, Don't Just Avoid (Ephesians 4:26)
  6. One Flesh, One Team (Genesis 2:24)
  7. Honoring Her in Public and Private (Proverbs 31:28-29)

Week 9: Father: Raising the Next Generation

  1. Impress It on Your Children (Deuteronomy 6:6-7)
  2. Don't Exasperate Them (Ephesians 6:4)
  3. Presence Over Perfection (Psalm 127:3-5)
  4. The Father They'll Remember (Proverbs 22:6)
  5. Blessing, Not Just Correcting (Hebrews 11:20)
  6. Modeling Repentance (Psalm 51:1-4, 10, 17)
  7. A Legacy of Faith (2 Timothy 1:5)

Week 10: Leader: Servant Leadership at Home, Work, and Church

  1. The Greatest Is the Servant (Mark 10:43-45)
  2. Leading by Example (1 Timothy 4:12)
  3. The Leader Nobody Applauds (John 13:3-5)
  4. Leading Through Correction (Galatians 6:1)
  5. Leading in the Boring Middle (Luke 16:10)
  6. A Leader Who Listens (James 1:19)
  7. Multiplying Yourself (2 Timothy 2:2)

Week 11: Provider & Worker: Excellence as Worship

  1. Work as Worship (Colossians 3:23)
  2. The Ant and the Sluggard (Proverbs 6:6-11)
  3. Providing Is Spiritual (1 Timothy 5:8)
  4. Contentment in the Grind (Philippians 4:11-13)
  5. Excellence Without Idolatry (Matthew 6:33)
  6. When Work Feels Like Curse, Not Calling (Genesis 3:17-19 and Ecclesiastes 2:24)
  7. Generosity as a Man of God (2 Corinthians 9:6-7)

Week 12: Sacrifice & Service: Laying Down Your Life

  1. Greater Love Has No One (John 15:13)
  2. A Living Sacrifice (Romans 12:1)
  3. Serving Where It's Unseen (Matthew 6:3-4)
  4. The Towel and the Basin (John 13:12-15)
  5. Suffering Well (1 Peter 4:12-13)
  6. Counting the Cost (Luke 14:27-28)
  7. Poured Out, Not Burned Out (2 Timothy 4:6-7)

Week 13: Legacy & Commissioning: Sent to Build Other Men

  1. Go and Make Disciples (Matthew 28:19-20)
  2. What You Pass Down (Psalm 78:4-7)
  3. The Faith of Those Who Went Before (Hebrews 11:1-2, 11:39-12:1)
  4. You Are Someone's Iron (Proverbs 27:17)
  5. Finish the Race (2 Timothy 4:7)
  6. Bold as Lions (Proverbs 28:1)

Sample: Day 1: Act Like Men

Day 1: Act Like Men

Watch! Stand firm in the faith! Be courageous! Be strong! Let all that you do be done in love. — 1 Corinthians 16:13-14

Paul closes a long letter to a church in chaos with four short commands, stacked like orders barked across a deck in rough weather. Watch. Stand firm. Be courageous. Be strong. Then, in the same breath, he adds a fifth: let everything you do be done in love. Many men have been handed a caricature of manhood that forces a choice between the first four and the last one, hard or kind, lead or love.

Each of the first four words carries weight. Watch means staying alert instead of drifting through your days half-asleep. Stand firm means holding a position when everything around you pushes you to move. Be courageous means acting when fear tells you to sit down and stay quiet. Be strong means carrying weight you didn't choose and wouldn't have picked for yourself.

Then love, and not a candlelit, greeting-card kind of love. Paul's word describes committed, sacrificial action toward another person's good, the same word used for how Christ moved toward the cross. A man who is only hard builds a fortress with nobody safe inside it. A man who is only kind, with no backbone under the kindness, folds the first time someone pushes back.

These ninety days work on both. Some entries will press you to hold a line you would rather let go. Others will press you to lay something down for someone who has not earned it.

Today’s charge. Practice both halves of this verse today: stand firm on one thing that matters, and extend deliberate love in one interaction, on purpose.

Prayer. Lord, make me strong enough to stand and soft enough to love, in the same breath. Shape me into the kind of man Paul describes here, hard enough to hold a line, tender enough to bend low. Amen.