--- title: "For pastors & church leaders" canonical: https://www.boldmen.org/for-pastors type: WebPage updated: 2026-08-05T03:08:46.461131+00:00 publisher: "B.O.L.D. (Brothers Overcoming Lustful Desires)" organization: "B.O.L.D. (Brothers Overcoming Lustful Desires)" organizationUrl: https://www.boldmen.org/ contactEmail: bryan@boldmen.org --- # For pastors & church leaders **You already know.** Roughly **70% of the men sitting in your pews this Sunday are struggling with pornography**, and a meaningful number of them are sliding toward — or already inside — an affair. The studies say it. Your counseling office knows it. Your worship pastor knows it. The wives know it. Most of those men will never raise their hand in a sermon series. The men's breakfast is not enough. The annual purity sermon is not enough. They need a **green zone** — a small, named, recurring group with a code of silence and a curriculum that doesn't flinch. That is what we plant. If you are a pastor, deacon, elder, or men's ministry leader at a Bible-believing church, we will help you stand up a B.O.L.D. group on your own campus at **no cost to you**. Specifically: 1. **A 60-minute discovery call** with Bryan. He'll listen, ask hard questions, and tell you straight whether B.O.L.D. is the right fit for what your church needs. 2. **The full curriculum framework** — the "what to expect" essay (the one on our [How to Join](/how-to-join) page), the daily check-in flow, the code of silence, the leader rotation pattern. All transferable. 3. **Leader training** for your point person — usually 4–6 hours over Zoom or one Saturday in Rockwall. We'll talk you through the first 90 days. 4. **A B.O.L.D. team member at your first meeting** — if you're within driving distance of Rockwall or Hockley, one of us will be in the room with you the first night. If you're not, we'll be on Zoom. 5. **Six months of follow-up** — monthly check-ins for the first six months. If your group hits a wall, we are a phone call away. ## What we ask from you - **A senior leader in the building knows the group exists.** B.O.L.D. is not a clandestine operation. The senior pastor doesn't have to attend, but he has to know. - **A point person who is committed for at least one year.** Group leadership is the load-bearing wall — if you don't have someone for that role, this won't work, and we'd rather know now. - **Confidentiality.** The code of silence is not optional. We will walk through it with your team. - **No financial or doctrinal entanglement.** Your church remains in charge of its own ministry. We are a coach, not a denomination. ## Why churches partner with us instead of building their own It's not because you can't build your own. **You can.** Many of the strongest groups in our network are run by pastors who could have done this without us. They came to us because: 1. **The framework is already battle-tested.** Bryan and the team have made paved the way and developed the model so your group doesn't have to. The 1-to-5-year timeline. The hand-emoji vs. praying-hands distinction. The "1 group/month minimum or you're out of accountability text." Each of those is a scar from real groups. 2. **It's the difference between starting from a blank page and starting from a known-good design.** Saves you 12–24 months of trial and error. 3. **Your guys hear it from another man, not from staff.** Sometimes the hardest thing for the senior pastor to do is be the *first* man in the church to confess porn. Bringing in an outside man removes that ceiling. ## How to start Text or email Bryan with **"Pastor"** in the subject line: - **bryan@boldmen.org** - **(214) 405-7328** Tell us your church, your city, the size of your men's ministry, and one sentence about what is making you reach out today. --- > *"Therefore, go and make disciples of all nations…"* — Matthew 28:19 How can a man go and make disciples if he is chained up to sexual immorality? **Get him free.** Then we both have a chance. [Talk to Bryan →](/contact) Source: https://www.boldmen.org/for-pastors